Why Girls are like Guppies!

GUPPY LOVE!

I have come across this really interesting article on http://www.pickupguide.com/ on the topic of social proof and here it is:

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The Billy Joel Syndrome is one of the great social science mysteries:

Why do beautiful women sometimes fall for not-so-good-looking guys?

For the answer, says Dr. Lee Alan Dugatkin, look to guppies. Guppies are the first species in which scientists have observed the phenomenon of "mate copying": A female guppy is much more likely to have the hots for a male guppy if other female guppies like him, too. And it seems humans behave in much the same way. Dugatkin conducted a study of 60 men and 74 women who were shown pictures of strangers and asked if they'd like to date them. They were also given information about whether other men and women, respectively, found the strangers attractive." Unsurprisingly, the male and female subjects both liked attractive people," says Dugatkin, a professor at the University of Louisville." But females weighed the opinions of other females much more highly than the men did."

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So yea we know that. I have seen so many incidents where an old fat ugly bloke will appear in the comfortable midst of a group of highly appealing girls. Assumingly, we'd think that this guy is either a filthy rich mofo or just another one of those guys who owns part of the club. If one is neither goodlooking nor rich, how can we hope to achieve social proof? Here are my suggestions:

1) Collective social-proof. Choose your friends wisely. In Singapore, people are very comfortable with the concept of social profiling, or stereotyping. If you hang out with the rich and the famous, you would be perceived as one even though you could just be nobody. On the other hand, no matter how goodlooking or charismatic you are, girls will be less inclined to get close to you if you hang out with a bunch of people with weak social identities.

Inner-game. Be comfortable, and confident. If one carries himself with confidence and is comfortable with his surroundings, he presents a strong frame. A person with inner-game naturally demonstrates the values of preselection through his non-neediness (refer to cat theory) and creates an illusion that he is the centre of the social function. Picture a bunch of loud-speaking, fun-loving and smile-bearing laidback guys who just cant give a fuck about anyone else in the club. The collective social proof of such a bunch will depress that of the old fat bloke's anyday.

3) Group Theory. If you can't beat them, join them. Perhaps the most direct way to get to a target in a group is through an approach scenario. However, a few most important pointers to take note of when doing a group approach such as to always engage the male in the group in a conversation upon approach. If the group is a set with no guys, engage a girl who is less attractive, always face your target with your your shoulders etc. I will cover more on group theory on entries to come.